Take steps to care for yourself
You might think that your problems are tiny when compared to what your loved one is coping with.
That might be true, but it does not mean you do not deserve a good quality of life.
Others, maybe including the person with bipolar disorder, may be tempted to take you for granted – but you must not forget to appreciate yourself for the value you are bringing to someone else’s life.
Despite sacrifices and efforts that seem overwhelming at times, you cannot afford to neglect your own needs.
Think about who you are. Remember that you are more than a caregiver. You have other needs, desires, and responsibilities that should not be constantly on the back burner.
Give yourself the attention and care you need to survive and to thrive as your own person.
Try these ideas:
- Take time out to relax and enjoy favourite activities or hobbies; set a date for social engagements you have been meaning to arrange. If you decide when to do things, you are more likely to follow through with your plans.
- Do not neglect your health; that means getting regular check-ups, good nutrition, adequate sleep, and exercise.
- Speak openly about your needs, rather than ignoring or repressing them, as that will only make you resentful.
- Recognise your limitations. You are only human.
- Accept all the help and support you can get; be creative about ways to share the responsibilities of caring for your loved one.
- Try to see the humour in situations; laughter is a great stress reliever.
- Do something nice for someone who is not ill; you might find it a refreshing change. You might find you’re more appreciated than you thought you were.
- Try to understand your emotions.
